Comments on: What Your Non ADD Spouse Wants You To Understand http://adultaddstrengths.com/2008/05/20/what-your-non-add-spouse-wants-you-to-understand/ A Blog about Adults with Attention Surplus Condition (aka ADHD) by Adult ADD Coach Pete Quily Fri, 05 Dec 2008 15:35:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: B. Johnson http://adultaddstrengths.com/2008/05/20/what-your-non-add-spouse-wants-you-to-understand/#comment-690084 B. Johnson Thu, 05 Jun 2008 12:28:30 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=386#comment-690084 I usually miss the timing on posts. I am not a woman, I am an adult male with ADHD. I just want to point out that you are correct that we are absent minded to our spouse, but the thing I think most well meaning people leave out is - we (ADHDers) can justify in our own minds with explicit detail, the failures on the spouses part, this only fuels the separation. It takes a strong person to get beyond the feeling of "it's not my fault". I usually miss the timing on posts. I am not a woman, I am an adult male with ADHD. I just want to point out that you are correct that we are absent minded to our spouse, but the thing I think most well meaning people leave out is - we (ADHDers) can justify in our own minds with explicit detail, the failures on the spouses part, this only fuels the separation. It takes a strong person to get beyond the feeling of “it’s not my fault”.

]]> By: Pete Quily http://adultaddstrengths.com/2008/05/20/what-your-non-add-spouse-wants-you-to-understand/#comment-656428 Pete Quily Wed, 21 May 2008 17:58:05 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=386#comment-656428 They definitely could Miss Lynx, but they often seem to be more of a problem with ADDers than non ADD people, and not understanding AND not acting on them is one of the reasons ADDers have higher divorce rates. With non ADD men sometimes the problem is mainly awareness and willingness to act. With ADD men it's awareness, willingness to act, AND the problems of having ADD. They definitely could Miss Lynx,

but they often seem to be more of a problem with ADDers than non ADD people, and not understanding AND not acting on them is one of the reasons ADDers have higher divorce rates.

With non ADD men sometimes the problem is mainly awareness and willingness to act. With ADD men it’s awareness, willingness to act, AND the problems of having ADD.

]]> By: Miss Lynx http://adultaddstrengths.com/2008/05/20/what-your-non-add-spouse-wants-you-to-understand/#comment-656256 Miss Lynx Wed, 21 May 2008 15:41:24 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=386#comment-656256 I think a lot of that article could apply to any ADD/non-ADD relationship, regardless of gender(s). I think a lot of that article could apply to any ADD/non-ADD relationship, regardless of gender(s).

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