Comments on: What Has Helped Me with Adult ADD http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/ A Blog about Adults with Attention Surplus Condition (aka ADHD) by Adult ADD Coach Pete Quily Thu, 11 Mar 2010 23:03:10 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Pete Quily http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1315196 Pete Quily Sun, 07 Mar 2010 22:17:28 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1315196 have him look at the s<a href="http://www.addcoach4u.com/symptomsofadhd.html" rel="nofollow">ymptoms of adhd</a>, take the adult ADHD screener test there, if he has it get an official diagnosis by someone who really knows ADHD, not medical professional does. maybe start reading Top <a href="http://adultaddstrengths.com/2008/02/21/top-10-ways-to-manage-adult-adhd/" rel="nofollow">10 Ways to Manage Adult ADHD</a> have him look at the symptoms of adhd,

take the adult ADHD screener test there, if he has it get an official diagnosis by someone who really knows ADHD, not medical professional does. maybe start reading Top 10 Ways to Manage Adult ADHD

]]> By: Sara Valderrama http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1313745 Sara Valderrama Tue, 02 Mar 2010 17:22:51 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1313745 I'm a Trainer and I'm having some difficulties with training one of my Supervisors at the company I work for. He's very smart but has difficulties following structured processes . He gets frustrated because he can't focus and as a Supervisor he needs to train others as well. He needs to be able to transmit his knowledge on to his new associates but I want to find a way to help him without making him feel bad. He has ADD although I don't think he's under treatment. Please help me help him. I'll appreciate any help you can give me. Thanks. I’m a Trainer and I’m having some difficulties with training one of my Supervisors at the company I work for. He’s very smart but has difficulties following structured processes . He gets frustrated because he can’t focus and as a Supervisor he needs to train others as well. He needs to be able to transmit his knowledge on to his new associates but I want to find a way to help him without making him feel bad.
He has ADD although I don’t think he’s under treatment. Please help me help him.
I’ll appreciate any help you can give me.

Thanks.

]]> By: Michael W http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1310318 Michael W Wed, 17 Feb 2010 15:17:51 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1310318 I am still learning how to be a functional ADDer. I have been on medicine since october of 2009. I am 36 now. I have dr hallowells books on CD. "Driven" and "Delivered" They help alot. I will check out the other book you mentioned. Thanks for this post. I am still learning how to be a functional ADDer. I have been on medicine since october of 2009. I am 36 now. I have dr hallowells books on CD. “Driven” and “Delivered” They help alot. I will check out the other book you mentioned. Thanks for this post.

]]> By: Kim http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1307858 Kim Tue, 09 Feb 2010 23:09:03 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1307858 Chris - My heart goes out to you. You are so not alone. Let's just say I can relate to nearly everything you said. I am trying so hard to be positive, but life gets in the way. People think, oh, yeah, that's life, but they don't know how much I hurt, how totally out of control I feel. I'm avoiding doing math homework (I'm 28 going back to college) because it's SO HARD to wrap my head around numbers, and b/c I keep getting distracted by other things that I've done NOTHING and it's due in 6 hours. In 12 I have to wake up and go to work, feeling miserable because I'm tired and overworked and IT'S ALL MY FAULT. But I started reading "Driven to Distraction" and it's helping so much. So many relatable stories and tools to use. Read the book this guy said to read - ADD Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life. I haven't read it but I will (thanks for the reference!). Implement some of the tools that work for you. For me, I've found that a strict AM routine and a PM routine work. I have a pathological need to know what's coming in my day. We can't know everything, but my wake up and bed time routines don't have to change, no matter what else happens. Never stop looking for help - you might just find it. At least that's what I'm hoping. For now, back to math. Good Luck. Chris –
My heart goes out to you. You are so not alone. Let’s just say I can relate to nearly everything you said. I am trying so hard to be positive, but life gets in the way. People think, oh, yeah, that’s life, but they don’t know how much I hurt, how totally out of control I feel. I’m avoiding doing math homework (I’m 28 going back to college) because it’s SO HARD to wrap my head around numbers, and b/c I keep getting distracted by other things that I’ve done NOTHING and it’s due in 6 hours. In 12 I have to wake up and go to work, feeling miserable because I’m tired and overworked and IT’S ALL MY FAULT.

But I started reading “Driven to Distraction” and it’s helping so much. So many relatable stories and tools to use. Read the book this guy said to read – ADD Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life. I haven’t read it but I will (thanks for the reference!). Implement some of the tools that work for you. For me, I’ve found that a strict AM routine and a PM routine work. I have a pathological need to know what’s coming in my day. We can’t know everything, but my wake up and bed time routines don’t have to change, no matter what else happens.

Never stop looking for help – you might just find it. At least that’s what I’m hoping. For now, back to math. Good Luck.

]]> By: chris http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1307163 chris Sat, 06 Feb 2010 23:19:54 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1307163 Hi. I've never blogged before, but I am desperate. I'm sure I have Add, sure my mother does too. I feel its ruining my life. I'm irresponsible, lazy, disorganized, late for everything all the time, have trouble making friends, keeping friends, can't concentrate, I am a financial disaster. I am 40 years old and feel it's time to grow up. But i literally feel stunted. I don't think like normal people. I don't see things the way others do. I always feel like I'm in a fog. I suffer from Depression. I am so sick of myself. I am my worst enemy. Years ago, I spoke to my Doctor and he asked about my childhood, school and stuff like that, said I had Add. He put me on Ritalin. Do you remember the game, pick up sticks? That's what my brain is like, all this stuff just lying in a big mess, thoughts intertwined with each other, can't make any sense of it. On ritalin, it's like all those sticks stood straight up, at attention, all in order. It was good. But, it made me irritatible and jumpy, I didn't like it. So I quit, like so many other medicines over the years, (for depression). I can't even describe things that happen to my body, you know, like the doctor asks your history or how long have you had this pain, or did this medicine help? I don't notice things, don't pay attention. People want to know if I can do something like two weeks from now or something, or want to plan a menu for a camping trip and I cannot wrap my head around it, i can't do it. I can get a list going once the occasion is staring me in the face, a couple days ahead of time, otherwise, i just literally can't do it. I'm sure people think of me as immature and irresponsible and lazy. I think I am too. I don't know what to do or where to go. I've managed at work, I have a list of duties I must do each shift, and it keeps me focused, so I'm pretty sure a list should work in my house, too, but I've made thousands of lists and schedules and never follow any of them. I have no "stick to it " ability. My house is a disaster. That's another thing. I am a huge slob. I'm embarrased to have people over to my house. I am fat and lonely. I have many creative ideas, like crafts, and decorating but don't have the ability or the know how to follow through on them. I am mess. Everything is messed up. I make a decent living, I shouldn't be living paycheck to paycheck, owe everyone money. But I do. I should not be in charge of my life. How can I get my head on straight and get my life in order? I am so tired of being so pathetic. I've read research about signs and symptoms of Add, but would like to hear how other people's lives are. Is anyone else like me? Or am I really just a pathetic loser too lazy and stupid to change? I've seen a few psychiatrists through the years, never about Add. I was once diagnosed with an Avoidant Personality. Boy am I. I don't know if that is related to Add or not but it also reaks havak in my life. Where can I go to get help? What can i do? Am I the only one who lives this way? Hi. I’ve never blogged before, but I am desperate. I’m sure I have Add, sure my mother does too. I feel its ruining my life. I’m irresponsible, lazy, disorganized, late for everything all the time, have trouble making friends, keeping friends, can’t concentrate, I am a financial disaster. I am 40 years old and feel it’s time to grow up. But i literally feel stunted. I don’t think like normal people. I don’t see things the way others do. I always feel like I’m in a fog. I suffer from Depression. I am so sick of myself. I am my worst enemy. Years ago, I spoke to my Doctor and he asked about my childhood, school and stuff like that, said I had Add. He put me on Ritalin. Do you remember the game, pick up sticks? That’s what my brain is like, all this stuff just lying in a big mess, thoughts intertwined with each other, can’t make any sense of it. On ritalin, it’s like all those sticks stood straight up, at attention, all in order. It was good. But, it made me irritatible and jumpy, I didn’t like it. So I quit, like so many other medicines over the years, (for depression). I can’t even describe things that happen to my body, you know, like the doctor asks your history or how long have you had this pain, or did this medicine help? I don’t notice things, don’t pay attention. People want to know if I can do something like two weeks from now or something, or want to plan a menu for a camping trip and I cannot wrap my head around it, i can’t do it. I can get a list going once the occasion is staring me in the face, a couple days ahead of time, otherwise, i just literally can’t do it. I’m sure people think of me as immature and irresponsible and lazy. I think I am too. I don’t know what to do or where to go. I’ve managed at work, I have a list of duties I must do each shift, and it keeps me focused, so I’m pretty sure a list should work in my house, too, but I’ve made thousands of lists and schedules and never follow any of them. I have no “stick to it ” ability. My house is a disaster. That’s another thing. I am a huge slob. I’m embarrased to have people over to my house. I am fat and lonely. I have many creative ideas, like crafts, and decorating but don’t have the ability or the know how to follow through on them. I am mess. Everything is messed up. I make a decent living, I shouldn’t be living paycheck to paycheck, owe everyone money. But I do. I should not be in charge of my life. How can I get my head on straight and get my life in order? I am so tired of being so pathetic. I’ve read research about signs and symptoms of Add, but would like to hear how other people’s lives are. Is anyone else like me? Or am I really just a pathetic loser too lazy and stupid to change? I’ve seen a few psychiatrists through the years, never about Add. I was once diagnosed with an Avoidant Personality. Boy am I. I don’t know if that is related to Add or not but it also reaks havak in my life. Where can I go to get help? What can i do? Am I the only one who lives this way?

]]> By: Pete Quily http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1306819 Pete Quily Fri, 05 Feb 2010 09:36:19 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1306819 hi Jean-Louis, you might want to check out the satellite CHADD Chapter in Edmonton, my hometown. CHADD Edmonton Satellite Chapter Contact:chaddedmontonsatellite@yahoo.ca Facilitator: Rachel Rogers you might also want to check out this post I did, Top 10 Ways to Manage Adult ADHD http://adultaddstrengths.com/2008/02/21/top-10-ways-to-manage-adult-adhd/ hi Jean-Louis,

you might want to check out the satellite CHADD Chapter in Edmonton, my hometown.

CHADD Edmonton Satellite Chapter
Contact:chaddedmontonsatellite@yahoo.ca
Facilitator: Rachel Rogers

you might also want to check out this post I did, Top 10 Ways to Manage Adult ADHD
http://adultaddstrengths.com/2008/02/21/top-10-ways-to-manage-adult-adhd/

]]> By: Jean-Louis Legare http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1304573 Jean-Louis Legare Wed, 27 Jan 2010 17:57:41 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1304573 hi i have had adhd all my life and have tryed not to accept it but have gotten to the point that i am in the prosses of loosing my home and going through bankruptcy. i want to stop this from happining again. i live in edmonton and if you know of any one who can help that would be great thanks hi i have had adhd all my life and have tryed not to accept it but have gotten to the point that i am in the prosses of loosing my home and going through bankruptcy. i want to stop this from happining again. i live in edmonton and if you know of any one who can help that would be great thanks

]]> By: Sheena Crankson http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1293108 Sheena Crankson Sun, 13 Dec 2009 07:56:54 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1293108 Hi Pete This has always been my thoughts that most children in care have come from ADHD familys ! Also agree with your comment on Adults in denial as have come across quite a few of them ! Still trying to get the message across but hard work when parents do not want to look at themselves and thier kids are suffering as a consequence ! I know a lady with 4 kids 3 of which live with her all boys ! She thinks she is normal because all of the people she attracts have much worse issues than her ? How she copes with 3 teenage undiagnosed kids I dont know ! Hi Pete
This has always been my thoughts that most children in care have come from ADHD familys ! Also agree with your comment on Adults in denial as have come across quite a few of them ! Still trying to get the message across but hard work when parents do not want to look at themselves and thier kids are suffering as a consequence !
I know a lady with 4 kids 3 of which live with her all boys ! She thinks she is normal because all of the people she attracts have much worse issues than her ?
How she copes with 3 teenage undiagnosed kids I dont know !

]]> By: Pete Quily http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1293094 Pete Quily Sun, 13 Dec 2009 06:32:27 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1293094 Hi Michael, glad you like it. There's a quite a few adopted children who have ADHD, don't know the exact percentage but it's pretty high. good luck with your blog Hi Michael,

glad you like it. There’s a quite a few adopted children who have ADHD, don’t know the exact percentage but it’s pretty high. good luck with your blog

]]> By: Michael W http://adultaddstrengths.com/2009/11/12/what-has-helped-me-with-adult-add/comment-page-1/#comment-1292030 Michael W Tue, 08 Dec 2009 18:15:30 +0000 http://adultaddstrengths.com/?p=1250#comment-1292030 I am glad I found this blog. It has a lot of good suggestions. I was diagnosed in October of this year, and I am still climbing out of the hole that it took 36 years to dig. I started my own blog about it. addeternal.blogspot.com. Funny thing, my kid has it, and he is adopted by my wife and I, and he was diagnosed first. The diagnoses have explained alot. We both are on medicines now. I will be sure to come back to this blog. I am glad I found this blog. It has a lot of good suggestions. I was diagnosed in October of this year, and I am still climbing out of the hole that it took 36 years to dig. I started my own blog about it.
addeternal.blogspot.com. Funny thing, my kid has it, and he is adopted by my wife and I, and he was diagnosed first. The diagnoses have explained alot. We both are on medicines now. I will be sure to come back to this blog.

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