#13. This post is a part of a series where people answer my anonymous survey question. If you have ADHD but haven’t gone public with it, what would it take to you go public with ADHD?
There are risks and rewards for going public with ADHD AND for staying hidden in the ADHD closet. See this post for context on the series.
“It would only take figuring out how and where and when.
ADHD is a devastating hidden disability that non ADDers don’t seem to want to hear about, don’t dare to try to understand. Maybe, even understandably, can’t.
The very concept of ADHD seems to shatter non ADDers fixed, unwavering, and unflappable core belief system that: behavior is completely volitional, and that any deviation is punishable. End of subject.
ADD life is painful and destructive, even when understood. What other disability compares?…when you consider not just the personal disappointments and heartbreaks, the disappointments reflected back by those affected, the lack of understanding and support. But More: actual distain for our mistakes and foibles? Despite our best efforts.
When trying to explain it throws fuel on the fire? When even the medication is looked at askance, and in itself suspect to the detractors?
A non ADDer cannot or will not conceive of the unfortunate reality of the disconnect between effort and accomplishment, the Sisyphean effort of pushing that boulder up hill every day.
Can’t try any harder. Already trying harder than any 6 people collectively. ADD is relentless. It takes no breaks. It is a sentence. Punishable.”