“i go really quiet and just want to be by myself and organise things and get all the things done i have been putting off.” that sounds like a common description of someone with adhd on adhd medication. Unlike crystal meth there’s no drano involved and shouldn’t make you paranoid.

Girls and women with ADHD have much higher rates of Anorexia Nervosa, 2.7 time higher here are some reasons why
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All I can say is that I am prescribed 60mg af pure Methamphetamine per day, and all it does to me is calm me down, and help me focus.

Just to clarify, 2mg is enough to make the average “normal” person stoned out of their mind. So my tolerance should be at a rate of more than 30x that of a normal person, if I did not indeed have ADD. How likely is that?

I guess that it proves that I, as a 40 year old male, do not react to this stimulant, in any normal way, and therefore I conclude that Adult ADD does indeed exist. Of course there is also all the symptoms and traits, that I have as well, to underpin the reality of Adult ADD.

For understanding denial see Gina Pera’s book on adhd and relationships, I don’t agree with all of it, but she’s got 4 great chapters on denial she should sell as a stand alone ebook

both Gina and Melissa are married to ADHD husbands, hence the natural focus for them more on males with adhd in relationships vs women. Sometimes some people write about men with adhd and don’t clarify traits of men vs adhd traits or traits of the comorbidities ie narcissism, etc.

Often women with adhd will internalize (depression, anxiety, self doubt) while men with adhd will more often externalize, (ODD, denial, anger) of course that’s in general and there are exceptions. Sari Solden and Kathleen Nadeau have written books specifically on women and adhd, I don’t know if there’s a site like adhdmarriage.com specifically focused on women with adhd in relationships. Maybe someone else does.

As someone who coach both women and men with ADHD, I’d suggest whether you’re a woman or a man, the most important thing to do is to focusing on learning to understand how adhd impacts you specifically in the different areas of your life, relationships, career, finances, social life etc and find ways in which to learn how to manage it more effectively. See my post The Top 10 Ways to Manage Adult ADHD
for some ideas.

FYI often the adhd guys in denial have such deep shame about it and don’t know how to manage it, and never been taught how to, they get tired of being frustrated with it and just turtle up and go into denial. Often the adhd women have more guilt and are at least open to talk about it (compared to most, not all of the men).

Sadly few medical professionals are trained to deal with adhd, less with adult adhd, and even less with women with ADHD.

If he has something that can be treated and he can learn to change his behaviours then we will have a better chance of working it out. What I am afraid of is his denial. I think he may take too long to make the effort to change, and by the time he does we will be long over. Our marriage is hanging on by a thread right now.

I am a cancer survivor, I was expected to live maybe 4 years after my treatments. That was 10 years ago. I am healthy now and I don’t like wasting my life in this miserable circle. I feel I was given a second chance and I should do something with it. He tries to push me down everytime. He says he is envious of my outgoing personality and how I am always positive. Why is that a bad thing?

This article was an eye opener for me. Thank you.